Think about how you flirt. Dating success comes from understanding your technique. To flirt more effectively, you have to understand more about yourself. Studies on over 10,000 daters from around the world indicates a breakdown of 5 major flirting styles. Here they are:

1. Physical: (40%), based on the idea of quick communication involving non-verbal behavior; physical attractiveness, the way you move or dance; which moves to physical encounters with a great deal of chemistry, high energy, and rapid enamoration.
2. Polite: (30%), Careful, rule-governed; dislike sexual communication (too aggressive). 90% of Polite flirters have a hard time getting their message across.
3. Playful: (14%), People who flirt just for fun, to get free drinks, because it’s a cultural thing, because they’re negotiating, etc. Because there’s no meaning behind it, playful flirts have the hardest time moving into a committed relationship. The early success at drawing attention keeps them locked into the early stages.
4. Sincere: (8%), based on creating an emotional connection; intimacy first prior to sexual encounter. Prefer talking, want to find out who you are/what you’re all about. Based on honesty.
5. Traditional: (8%), very strict gender roles (men need to be the aggressor/women should be coy, almost indirect). Traditional men like it when women pull away and want to be pursued. Traditional women like it when a man comes on strong. Men who are traditional don’t really like it when women come on strong; they see this negatively –as too forward/promiscuous.

The purpose of the ‘dating styles’ is to know more about yourself so you can figure out what others are perceiving from you. If you’re not getting the relationship that you want, perhaps you are sending the wrong message out.